A lot of people use to see self-help as unnecessary and indulgent 20 years ago. It was seen as something that celebrities might resort to if they were going through a hard time. But the normal person was too busy for that sort of nonsense. Luckily we have become a bit more enlightened in this day and age, and he benefits of both seeking help and helping yourself are now recognized
Self-help is such a broad term, and it can mean anything from helping give up an addition, to keeping a gratitude diary. But 20 years ago, apart from a few psychological trail blazers, most people thought of self-help was for wishy-washy types. The sort of people that had more time and money on their hands than sense. This might have been because self-help is often confused with Freudian analysis. Freud encouraged the endless talking over of problems and their hidden psychological meaning. This is not the case with self-help; it is based more on the ideas of Abraham Maslow and how we can actualize as individuals. That is how we can develop in our lives and become the best version of ourselves possible.
20 years ago many people refused to put their trust in the self-help movement because they simply thought that it wouldn’t work for them. But when we examine ourselves, who of us can say we are perfect as we are, and that we couldn’t improve in any way? That is why self-help is a practical and useful thing to be interested in and can work for you if are invested in the outcome. However, it is important to pick things that resonate with you on a personal level. Trying to achieve a goal that you have no personal connection to can be like wading through treacle – challenging and a bit pointless.
Of course, some people will need more help that they can provide for themselves. It’s hard to pull ourselves out of a hole with no one to help us up. That is why it is important to see help from trained professionals if appropriate. Those suffering from anxiety can be helped by visiting a psychologist for a course on CBT or mindfulness. Those dealing with additions can benefit from assisted like Fresh Start Sober Living to get them out of temptation ways. Those with bipolar should use self-help in conjunction with help from medical services not instead of. Remember that there is no shame in coming to the end ourselves and reaching out for help. No man or woman is an island, and asking for additional help is a positive and mature step to wellness.
The other brush that self-help got tarred with 20 years ago it that it is all hokum. This was a criticism often directed toward the more spiritual and creative aspects of self-help like art therapy, TM, and chanting. This was a symptom of a society that had at that time become so rigidly rational that there was little room for holistic exploration. Of course not every method may work for every person. But as we know from the placebo effect, improves can be seen just from the person believing that the activity is doing them well! So it’s important to remain to open the-the healing potential of self-help.